If you want to begin to grow, you can't avoid pain. You have to challenge yourself. You have to get out of your comfort zone only then can you discover some talents and skills you never knew you had. You have to start listening to yourself, trusting yourself, relieve yourself of all those negative luggage and garbage you carry along in her you. You don't need all of the approval you so seek right now, no they will when they see the right thing you are doing. But it is above all for you that you have to keep digging!